Thicket and Thin Wood

Tango 
(c) 2012 Stephanie Glennon

To paraphrase The Sixth Sense, I see couples everywhere–even in the trees which seem to stretch their branches towards one another, like the reed-like one and its more substantial companion in this photograph.

A recent comment on a blog post spoke of “thin spaces”:  “The idea is that God and souls are always around us, and the distance is almost always the same . . . but occasionally the distance between us and those around us is shorter and we can feel them. That is called ‘thin moments.’ Unfortunately we can’t call them up when we need them – they just happen.”

Intuitively, it seemed to me strange to call these moments “thin”: that connection seems to be so weighty, so dense and intense–so thick (as John Hiatt put it, “how much thicker this fog is gonna get, God only knows”).

According to Eric Weiner, “It’s not clear who first uttered the term ‘thin places,’ but they almost certainly spoke with an Irish brogue. The ancient pagan Celts, and later, Christians, used the term to describe mesmerizing places like the wind-swept isle of Iona . . . or the rocky peaks of Croagh Patrick. Heaven and earth, the Celtic saying goes, are only three feet apart, but in thin places that distance is even shorter.”

Even as an etymological matter, to characterize these moments and places as “thin” seems slightly off: the word “thick” connotes closeness, and seems to fit when “the distance between us and those around us is shorter.”  The word “thick” derives from theku and thekwia, and means “not thin, dense.”  A secondary meaning of being “‘close together’ is preserved in thickset and proverbial phrase[s] [like] thick as thieves.”

Moreover, “thin” retains an aura of progress that is relatively easy-going, while “thick” alludes to a tough slog.  (So ancient is the metaphor of travelling “through thicket and thin wood” that it received a more contemporary shorthand of, roughly, “through thick and thin” when Chaucer employed the phrase in the 1300s.)

A thin space and thin moment may be many things, but surely it is not a place or experience of ease.

At my husband’s memorial service, one of my daughters read a poem about her father which began with a scene about an entirely different kind of person–the kind among whom one would find air “thick with epigrams and smoke.”  Such an atmosphere had a dark undertow: “And underneath it all/It seemed that furtive things began to crawl,” A Man continues.

(It happened that the poem I read at the memorial service also used the word “thin,” in a non-metaphorical sense: “I say to my body: grow thinner still.”)

I realized through my daughter’s poem that “thin” is not simply the opposite of “thick”; it conveys the absence of layers.  The poem she selected captures her father so well: it fits  him perfectly but for a single word (the significantly riper age for which the poet’s father had “walked his years”) she omitted when she read it aloud.  One of the things it captured about him was the absence of dark layers: of pretense, of posturing, of deception or guile–of a different person inside.

The metaphorical layers of that conversation at the poem’s beginning (underneath which “furtive things began to crawl”) are absent in a thin moment in a thin place.

The air around my husband was thin.

This is a daughter whom I suspect has been to thin places.  Some special touchstone must exist for her in a place like northern India–a transportation I can feel looking at some of her photographs and paintings, and seeing her eyes or hearing her voice as she speaks of her travels.

Banaras, India
(c) 2011 Emma E. Glennon

Weiner wrote of experiencing a thin moment in New Delhi, one of many magical places where my young but preternaturally wise daughter has been: “At the gurdwara, time burst its banks. I was awash in time. That’s a common reaction to a thin place. It’s not that we lose all sense of time but, rather, that our relationship with time is altered, softened. In thin places, time is not something we feel compelled to parse or hoard. There’s plenty of it to go around.”

I think grief makes one awash in time in a different sense–“thick” time, if you will.   I’ve lost track of time, day, date, and even year, paddling in a place where “time burst its banks,” and I do indeed want to reclaim, “to parse or hoard” past time.

Perhaps the frequent “thin moments,” when I feel my husband’s presence with me, are part of the way back.

(c) 2012 Stephanie Glennon

About Stephanie

In her spare time, Stephanie works full-time, and then some, as an attorney. She has published articles and delivered talks in arcane fields like evidentiary issues, jury instructions, expert witnesses, and forensic evidence. She also is an adjunct professor at a law school on the banks of the Charles and loves that dirty water, as she will always think of Boston as her home. You are welcome to take a look at her Facebook author page, or follow @SMartinGlennon on Twitter. All content on this blog, unless otherwise attributed, is (c) 2012-2016 by Stephanie M. Glennon and should not be reproduced (in any form other than re-blogging in accordance with Wordpress protocol and the numerous other wee buttons at the bottom of each post) without the express permission of the domain holder.
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12 Responses to Thicket and Thin Wood

  1. Denise Glennon says:

    Thin being the absence of layers is such a beautiful thought. To continually approach the messy world with open hearts and wide eyes, in spite of truly knowing the possibilities of what can happen….ah… That is the ideal. Staying vulnerable, but with a secret eye to the realistic.

    As for having/being/seeing/feeling thin moments in ordinary life, the Irish lassie in me can simply say there is a bit of magic and a bit of God and a bit of I-don’t-know-what in it. The open heart, open eyes, can somtimes see things other people don’t, and sometimes, well, they can’t. Sister Irene, a beautiful, wonderful, spiritual person and great friend to Mataunte, was hoping for a “thin” message right after Mataunte died. After Mataunte’s soul passed up to heaven, Irene sat on her bed and waited..for something….thin…and she told me and Catherine, “I waited….and I got nothin'”. No accounting for the timing or longevity of those moments that we want and cherish. But I think in the searching and wanting, we find something else and something perhaps that is fortifying too. For me, having the few thin moments I’ve had, and talking and praying about them has profoundly helped my faith, which I truly need to get through the challenges before me.

    I ache for you so much. I do hope that my brother makes some determination to enter the thin place more often, but who knows who decides and who knows how it happens anyway.

    It is so clear, Stephanie, that your big heart is open to life and healing. Your photos on this blog show the beauty of Spring and your writing embraces the poetry in the world. Keep on truckin’ lady, you are doing well. Thin or thick.

  2. bornbyariver says:

    Even in the “thickest” of grief, light occasionally does break through. What a beautiful post!

  3. Stephanie says:

    Many thanks to both of you. Your comments are very helpful to me.

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