Vibrant Skies

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Sunrise in northern Iceland is indescribably vibrant, pulsating across the color spectrum, coalescing with the aurora’s shimmering purples and yellow-greens.

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Goodnight, Sweet Prince

A year ago our friend Chris passed away at home, where his loving family cared for him. Grieving people are often told that the “first year is the worst,” and, less frequently, advised that people tend to be very solicitous of the grieving during that first year. The first year is awful, but is leavened by others’ support and presence.  It is a great help when the support continues just as the grief does; the passage of one year is a milestone, but it does not end the pain or yearning.

If you know people who are grieving–and who does not?–please let them know that you continue to think of the person they loved, forever after that first year has passed.

Love in the Spaces

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Dawn.  It was our friend’s last day, a Sunday, fittingly for a man of such faith.


Almost five years ago, a week after my husband Jim was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, Chris strode into our lives.   We were then only just getting to know his oldest child, who has since become like a son to me.

It’s an understatement to say it was a delicate time in our lives, given the shock and awe of that diagnosis.

Chris and his son arrived in our gravel driveway in a Crown Vic that now sports a Marine sticker.  No one cuts off the driver of such a car.  Jim and I went to the front door when we heard the gravel crunch and the car doors thunk shut.

Chris  powered over the old pine boards to the pine green door where many others who’d known us for years hesitated and others…

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Astounding Alphabets


Alphabet Throne,” sculpture by Sarah Peters, Falmouth, Massachusetts

Outside a Massachusetts bookstore is an alphabet chair, a touchable (and  sittable) sculpture by Falmouth artist Sarah Peters.

On the same lucky date my younger brother had picked for his wedding–7/11–I visited this bookstore and touched the burnished bronze letters warmed by intense summer sun. An author friend seemingly similarly fixated (but in a much more literary way than I) on memory was speaking about her book of love and loss, The Summer of Letting Go.

The alphabet chair contains its own puzzle: a viewer soon notices that each conjoined letter is imprinted with the texture of something that begins with the corresponding letter: “b” is for button, “n” is for net, “s” is for seashell, “y” is for yarn. . . .

This, too, is an alphabet with an inner puzzle:

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Alphabet Quilt (c) SMG

My own most enduring artistic medium is fabric.  When my children were very young they would develop fanatical devotion to certain books.  Inspired by one of these, Lois Ehlert’s Eating the Alphabet, I made a quilt that reads in rows from left to right as an alphabet of fruits and vegetables.  Some letters of the alphabet have more than one entry (“b” is for beet, broccoli, and blueberries), but it is assuredly an alphabet quilt.

In making it I excavated decades of family memories embedded in fabric scraps.  The grapefruit’s dappled skin is from a Merimekko fabric in the cardboard-boxed scraps my collage artist mother keeps.  Strawberries were culled from a baby jumper I had sewn for my first daughter.  Mushrooms were stuffed with batting behind batik scraps from my friend Sharon’s fabric collection.  It took some effort, and not a few needle punctures to my forefinger, to applique a kiwi from the sturdy tan suede square salvaged from a skirt I bought when I was pre-teen.

(I was flitting around channels a few weeks ago when I caught a glimpse of a room filled with stacked clear boxes of folded fabric.  I thought, “That’s me”. . . . (when I think to myself  I don’t always follow grammatical rules strictly) . . . then wondered why such a sight would merit screen time.  Was it a sewing show?  A quilting show?  I backtracked and discovered the show was called Hoarders.  Mortifying.)

When we moved to the home where we had our fourth child the dining room’s 1805 walls were painted russet, and seemed an ideal background for this quilt.

When guests of all ages had the “quilt tour,” they would often stand and ponder the enigma of what fell between asparagus and zucchini. “X” is particularly difficult to identify.

And when Jim finally came home at the end of his illness to be with his family and friends, this was the quilt that hung in front of his hospital bed.

The bed had taken the place of the antique table where we had hosted countless family gatherings featuring endlessly intriguing–and sometimes infuriating–word games and puzzles.  Thousands of pieces of cardboard puzzles also had been assembled there by Jim and our children.  Jim loved puzzles.

By then the alphabet quilt was surrounded by one of our daughter’s oil paintings, next to photographs taken by our younger daughter-who had not yet been born when I made the quilt–and pictures taken of us by a lifelong friend.  On a table built by another lifelong friend were handmade cards written to Jim, including one just delivered by a young niece. All of it, including the very letters which formed the words on every note and card, was art linked and spun by love.




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Defying Gravity

Iceland fall 2047This nearly weightless feather, tendrils curled from a wave’s sweep and gravity’s tender embrace, was one of the last things I saw before my own fall without grace on a cliff by the sea.

By a trick of light and shadow the feather appears to be floating above a black sand beach.

I am not among the people who believe souls have a quantifiable physical heft.  I think they are no less real, but more weightless still, than a feather stolen away from a bright body that still soars in the sun and dances on ribbons of moonlight.

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